Is it a choice?

I know I wrote about questions in my last post but I thought this particular question deserved special attention. I have been asked once or twice if being gay is a choice. There are many that believe it is, usually the right wingers who are fundamentally antigay. I would have to disagree.

My first instinct is to wholeheartedly yell at the top of my lungs that it is not a choice. I have talked to many gays and lesbians as my own sort of research project and they all agree that they did not choose to be this way. I did not wake up one day and say I'm going to be gay today. I have felt different since I was very young. I really cannot remember a time when I did not feel the need to be a bit masculine. That is my identity. I believe it is this way for many gays. We all seem to have the same reaction to this question. Believe me, if I had gotten to choose I probably would've chosen to be straight because it is a hell of a lot easier than being gay, but I like who I am. All of my feelings, emotions, and attractions since I was very young have been toward women. I have always been more comfortable and felt more natural being around and with women. Loving women is just my nature. I know that many lesbians would agree with this too. It is just unnatural for many of us to be with men. We did not choose to be gay because we think it is "cool." This is not a political statement for me. It is simply who and what I was born to be.